Senior Chaplain Jonathan Grigsby

How and when to transition from dating to courtship

The process of courtship is in my opinion the lost revelation to society. For the record, there is a difference between dating and courting.  I’ve met people in relationships who when asked would say that they’ve been with their mate for  5 months, 1 year , 2  years  or so on.  I would then ask them are you dating or in a courtship? No one seems to know the difference. The ones that would say courtship, which were very few, did not know what to do in this stage of their relationship. I don’t proclaim to be a psychologist but I highly respect the understanding that this science brings to how the mind works. I am an ordained Chaplain and I am responsible for sanctioning couples at the altar of matrimony. Seeing that I take what I do very seriously, I believe that I should know the science of how two people should marry from an emotional, social, psychological and spiritual perspective.   Now the overall objective of courtship is to obtain and create a betrothal – which is an engagement for an institution of marriage.  Let’s examine the word courtship. By definition, Court means to engage in social & psychological activities to obtain an engagement for the institution of marriage. The word Ship means to cause to transport. Two core things happen when your relationship transitions from dating to courting.    A. You are creating and putting an agreement together based on Gods design on the six core perspectives of how a marriage operates and functions with you as a future husband or wife. Without a vision, the people will perish. You must have a goal and a plan.   B. Getting education and training on theses six core perspectives to become skilled in the position of a husband or a wife. Our goals and dreams are destroyed by lack of knowledge. My educational institute is designed to help couples pull together structured agreements designed for their success in the institution of marriage. The six core perspectives are spiritual, social, emotional, psychological, economics and policies and procedures.

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